The expression may have been used first by a New Zealand counselor in 2006. Kathryn Clements prepared a research report on how separation rituals could facilitate “conscious uncoupling.” The phrase is intended to convey a new paradigm for breaking up in kind, cooperative and respectful ways. As new age-y terms so often take on a life of their own, this one found its way to the tabloids via Gwyneth Paltrow’s announcement of her and her husband’s intentions.

Collaborative divorce is a civilized and positive approach to getting divorced. The collaborative team, comprised of the married couple, their two attorneys, a financial professional and a mental health professional, all work to maintain a spirit of cooperation and respect while the divorce is in process. This sets the pattern for the family to communicate on matters of importance in the future.

Sound similar – right?